http://practicecircles.com/home/forums/ Just another bbPress community en-US Thu, 09 Sep 2010 02:28:58 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q http://practicecircles.com/home/forums/search.php http://practicecircles.com/home/forums/topic.php?id=5#post-10 Thu, 03 Jun 2010 00:51:29 +0000 boringal 10@http://practicecircles.com/home/forums/ <p>I have tolerated this marriage for 19 years due to the kids and just can't do it any longer. Every effort to get him to help fix us failed over the years. Finally in December I gave him an ultimatium to change his behavior and actions or I was filing for divorce. It wasn't 2 weeks and he was back at it or trying to. So I informed him at the end of March I wanted a divorce. he agreed then acted as if nothing was said. A week later I confronted him again about a divorce and he agreed. Then I told him I had put my life on hold for 19 years while he hs been running around and I wasn't any longer and was going to start dating. He agreed. I went on one innocent date and 2 days later he had an ephiphany on life and decided he din't want a divorce and has completely changed (no drinking since April, no running around or out all night as before). I'm sorry but I'm not interested! It is way too late! I spent 19 years of raising our 6 kids and laying up until 3, 4 or 5 am wondering where he was and who he was with and how drunk he would be too many times! All I hear now is give him one more chance! I can't tell you how many chances I have given him already!</p> <p>I went and had the consult with the lawyer and even went &amp; paid to have everything started but went back a week later and got a refund and put it on hold. I just can't take the hate, hostility, threats, etc! I only make around $30,000 per year and can't afford to move out. The house is too much for me to cover on my own too! I just had surgery and decided to let him think I am giving him his second chance to calm thingsdown until I heal. I don't love him and he is driving me crazy! he is so far up my butt and going so out of the way to change that the kids and I are going crazy! It is over kill and just too late!</p> <p>I am hoping he will calm down and start to understand why I am where I am and inderstand that we would both be happier apart. He confronted me about 4 years ago and said he didn't want to be married to me anymore. Every time I asked him how he felt about me over these last 6 years he kept saying he didn't know???? Now all of a sudden he is so in love with me?????</p> <p>Has anyone else been in this situation? I am so worried about the kids and of course he is threatening for primary custody w shared visitation. I am going to schedule counseling too so he understands how and why I am where I am and how I can't go back.</p> <p>Any thoughts? </p> http://practicecircles.com/home/forums/topic.php?id=4#post-7 Sat, 01 May 2010 12:52:34 +0000 freegal 7@http://practicecircles.com/home/forums/ <p>I am about to embark on settlement with my soon to be ex Narcissistic (as in Personality Disorder) husband. </p> <p>We were married fo 16 years and have three fabulous boys. So far we've basically had very little contact with one another over the last 10 months and only email logistics regarding the children. We both endured a difficult marriage for many years and i am emotionally resolved and, as Michele refers to in her book, the Initiator.</p> <p>I am not sure if anyone here has had the experience of divorcing a Narcissist but I am doing so for my own desire to live a better life. I wonder if it is possible to have a karmic divorce with a Narcissist? I would love anyone's experience. FreeGal </p> http://practicecircles.com/home/forums/topic.php?id=2#post-2 Wed, 10 Feb 2010 00:31:43 +0000 KW Mom 2@http://practicecircles.com/home/forums/ <p>Throughout my divorce, I heard that children were resilient and believed that mine would be fine. Nothing could be further from the truth. They suffered terribly, and they still have issues that can be traced back to a divorce that was final over 15 years ago.</p> <p>I would like to know how other parents have dealt with the aftereffects of divorce on children. </p> http://practicecircles.com/home/forums/topic.php?id=3#post-3 Wed, 10 Feb 2010 00:47:41 +0000 KW Mom 3@http://practicecircles.com/home/forums/ A discussion of the phenomenon of Dads who drop out of their children's lives after a divorce.